Ever wonder if it really matters when you break a date by telling a not-so-little white lie? Or whether it’s all that bad to bash your ex — or secretly date more than one person? Let’s take a closer look, and begin by considering what’s on your dating conscience. Even if no one else knows the truth, you do — and so does your karma.
Karma is a spiritual principle that is like Newton’s 3rd Law of Physics: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, if you’re good, honest, kind and true, you probably have great dating karma and nothing to complain about. But if you’re like many of us, you could do better in the dating behavior department — and your actions may be beckoning a bad boomerang response.
Dating Karma Rule #1: Quit complaining about your love life
The universe brings together people who belong together, says Julie Winter, a New York-based spiritual teacher and healer. In other words, just because you are single right now doesn’t mean you have somehow missed the love of your life, nor should you worry this will happen. Trust that the universe will introduce you to your match, and your sense of calm and confidence may very well bring that person out of the woodwork.
Dating Karma Rule #2: Be really, really honest
San Mateo-based couples counselor Susan Strong says that good dating karma is all about telling the truth — to yourself and others. “Even though it can be really hard, you have to be totally upfront,” she says. “And if that relationship doesn’t work out, you leave with your integrity and clean karma. You have nothing to regret.”
Dating Karma Rule #3: Put your past where it belongs
An unforgiving heart is the number one blockage to true love. Sure, we’ve all been hurt. Yet you only keep the pain alive if you harbor grudges or cling to bad memories. The key to letting go of the past is to forgive the person who hurt you and then to forgive yourself for your role in the relationship. It sure can be tough, but your future depends on it.
Dating Karma Rule #4: Play matchmaker
Sharing and connecting love links is great karma. So don’t be shy about setting up your friends — or past lovers. Even if those you set up don’t work out, that’s OK. By creating opportunities for others to love, you energetically create them for yourself.
Dating Karma Rule #5: Resist the urge to gossip
You know how easy it is to send a snarky email about a bad date or to pass around a juicy tidbit about someone’s boyfriend. But guess what? Bad karma. Remember, if you pass along negativity, you’ll get it back. Not only may the object of your derision hear how the news got around (you), but gossips rarely get much sympathy from others. Keep things hush-hush about other people’s private lives, and they will be more apt to do you the same courtesy
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